Strengthen your relationship and marriage with productive communication.

Marriage counselling, or couples’ counselling, is a type of psychotherapy for couples to understand their problems and resolve them effectively. 

Speaking to a licensed counsellor or psychotherapist will provide a safe space to improve your communication and rebuild your emotional connection. 

The ultimate aim is to correct your collective problem-solving abilities and work together as a team successfully.

Couple having a chat

Difference Between Couples and Marriage Counselling

Couples counselling is primarily for those who are in relationships. On the other hand, marriage counselling refers to counselling for married couples. 

Love comes in all shapes and forms. Whether you are married or in a same-sex relationship, we recognise that all relationships are important. As long as you are in a relationship, our counsellors can help you navigate through your unique issues.

How Couples and Marriage Counselling Can Help

  • Highlighting and comprehending issues
  • Identifying reasons for conflict
  • Learning how to better work through existing issues and conflicts
  • Exploring your strengths and weaknesses that could strengthen your marriage
  • Communicating and reconnecting with each other
  • Improving communication skills to better understand each other
  • Rebuilding trust and acceptance
  • Increasing mutual support
  • Strengthening physical and emotional intimacy

How Couples and Marriage Counselling Can Help

  • Highlighting and comprehending issues
  • Identifying reasons for conflict
  • Learning how to better work through existing issues and conflicts
  • Exploring your strengths and weaknesses that could strengthen your marriage
  • Communicating and reconnecting with each other
  • Improving communication skills to better understand each other
  • Rebuilding trust and acceptance
  • Increasing mutual support
  • Strengthening physical and emotional intimacy

Signs That A Couple Needs Counselling

1. Negative Communication and Frequent Arguments

A sign of serious breakdown in communication is when almost every conversation results in an argument. This form of negative interaction hinders the possibility of any genuine connection. Thus, it would help if a therapist comes in to facilitate the conversation.

2. Having The Same Argument Repeatedly

If you find that you and your partner are having the same argument again and again, there’s a possibility that it stems from emotional baggage, core values or personality. 

Other reasons may be solvable with awareness and compromise from both ends. In such cases, seeking a counsellor would help you identify issues that can be solved and hone the necessary skills to do so.

3. Lying or Keeping Secrets

In a marriage, there should be total honesty to promote a healthy relationship. When couples lie to each other or keep secrets about important things, it suggests that 

  • you are doing something that you should not be doing,
  • you do not trust your partner with certain information, or
  • you do not care to share things with them.

4. Unfaithfulness and Infidelity

Infidelity is a violation of an established emotional and/or physical exclusivity within a married couple. This leads to feelings of anger, jealousy and betrayal, which creates a challenging obstacle to get over.

This is when a counsellor would aid couples in questioning the reason for one’s unfaithfulness. From there, the root of the issue can be identified and solutions can be proposed. 

5. Lack of Physical Intimacy

It’s normal for the level of intimacy to differ from the first few years of marriage. However, if there’s a lack of intimacy between you and your partner or if you do not care that you are not intimate, it may help to seek a counsellor.

6. Disinterest

If you notice that you or your spouse are no longer interested in fighting or arguing, this indicates that you no longer care enough and counselling might be necessary.

Some signs include:
• Looking past any problems rather than expressing your thoughts
Lack of desire to spend time with each other
Not caring about where your partner is or what they are doing
Not caring when your partner is upset
Not caring if your sex life is suffering
Going about your daily lives separately
Lack of interest in your partner’s life

Approaches Used During Couples and Marriage Counselling at Sofia Wellness Clinic

Gottman Method Couples Therapy

The objective of the Gottman Method is to
disable contradictory verbal communication,
improve mutual respect and affection,
eliminate challenges that result in stagnancy, and
elevate sense of empathy and understanding.

The first session would involve understanding the couple, the history of the relationship and family background and influences. Next, individual sessions with each partner will be conducted. 

Subsequently, the counsellor will provide feedback to the couple, lay out their strengths and weaknesses and propose an intervention plan.

Prepare/Enrich 

Prepare/Enrich is an evidence-based, customised online assessment for couples to identify their strengths and areas for improvement. It requires the couple to complete the assessment prior to the first therapy session, which will generate a report. 

The first session involves setting goals and expectations and picking up communication skills to be actively practised during and outside of sessions. 

Thereafter, based on the generated report, activity books with 24 exercises will be provided and assigned as homework or completed in the session together. Each activity takes 15-30 minutes to complete. 

Thus far, this approach has strengthened over 4 million relationships.

Our Couples and Marriage Counsellors

Sophia Goh

Principal Counsellor

Sophia Goh - principal counsellor of Sofia Wellness Clinic

Sophia centres her practice around the basis of positive psychology. She strives to aid couples in rebuilding their relationship by bringing out the best in them.

Credentials
• Level 1 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Claire Leong

Counsellor

Claire Leong - counsellor of Sofia Wellness Clinic

Claire believes that one can only thrive in all aspects of life when they are healthy. She seeks to help couples understand themselves better and to tap on their strengths.

Credentials
• Prepare/Enrich Certified Facilitator

Counselling Fees in Singapore

ConsultationDurationSenior CounsellorCounsellor
Initial session75min$300$280
Subsequent sessions75min$280$250
Out-of-session phone call or emailPer 10min blocks$35$35

Why Choose Sofia Wellness Clinic for Couples and Marriage Counselling?

9 years of accumulated experience

Together, our psychotherapists have had 9 years of accumulated experience. We’ve observed various relationship dynamics and issues and effectively assisted to manage our clients’ unique challenges in marriage.

Commitment to excellence

As part of our core values, we aim to deliver excellence in our work. We are committed to upgrading ourselves through professional learning and development. Additionally, we seek to offer tailored advice to our clients.

FAQs About Couples and Marriage Counselling

Does counselling really help marriages?

Marriage or couples counselling can help to bring about positive change in your relationship. It is more likely to work if the couple recognises that there is something to work on and is committed to putting in effort even outside of therapy sessions.

What is the success rate of couples / marriage counselling?

Sophia, Founder of Sofia Wellness Clinic, says: 

It depends on how you define success! “Success” is usually determined by whether a couple stays together after going for counselling. But I feel that sometimes success is also helping unhappy couples get out of the relationship successfully, or just simply having a second conversation that is better than the first.

How to prepare for the first couples / marriage counselling session?

Generally, during the first session, the psychotherapist will understand the couple, find out about the history of the relationship and family background and influences. Before the session, it would be helpful to think about the goals of attending therapy, i.e. what you would like to see out of the sessions. 

Do note that the process may vary for different couples as your therapist will propose an approach that best suits your goals and dynamics. Thus, the preparation for the first session may vary. For example, Prepare/Enrich programs would require couples to complete an online assessment beforehand.

How much is couples / marriage counselling in Singapore?

At Sofia Wellness Clinic, the initial session (75min) costs $300 for a senior counsellor and $280 for a counsellor. Subsequent sessions (75min) will be $280 for a senior counsellor and $250 for a counsellor. 

Learn more about our counselling fees.

What is the difference between couples / marriage and relationship counselling?

Relationship counselling involves individual sessions addressing relationship issues. Examples include difficulties sustaining a romantic relationship, finding a partner or making a decision to stay or leave in a relationship. 

On the other hand, couples and marriage counselling involves joint sessions for both partners to attend and work through issues together.

Couples and Marriage Counselling in Singapore

Take the first step to improve your relationship today. Speak to one of our psychotherapists to learn more about yourselves, your relationship and how to actively work through conflicts productively.